By Anasuya Isaacs
The workshops culminated with the participants making Peace Tiles as a gift to someone who is also HIV+, something that, if the person doesn’t speak their language, would understand their gift just by seeing it.
We brought magazines, colored pencils and paint for them to create their visual gift of love. We let them know that they could use words, phrases, images or make up something from nothing. Anything they did would be perfect. Once they really believed that there was no right way or wrong way, they just let themselves create.
They were so excited by the magazines a real treat because they are too expensive for them to buy. We had to get to stop reading them (unfortunately) because time was limited. We just reminded them of their purpose: find the words and images that reflect what their heart wanted to give away to make a difference for someone else.
They were so focused that the room was completely silent. Every now and again, someone would share about a picture but mostly they composed their gift. Time was not on our side and yet they created gifts that belied that fact. They were so happy with their creations, many made time to make two and one person, Eliza, made four!
Nasipho, who hasn’t yet disclosed her HIV+ status to her sister with whom she lives, had a fight with her and came in to session so angry. She said that she hated her sister and was sure that her sister hated her. In the “communologue”, the group shared ways to heal this relationship, not only for her own health but because this sister will more than likely be taking care of her children when she has passed on. We asked her instead of making her Peace Tile for someone around the world, to make hers for her sister and to give it to her.
In her beautiful Peace Tile full of red ribbons is a quote she found in a magazine, “There’s a big difference between angry words, ‘I hate you’ and character attacks like, ‘You’re such a loser, you’re pathetic.’” Though she didn’t say that she forgave her sister, her whole body had a peace and sweetness that wasn’t there when we met a week before. I am hopeful for what can come and will ask her at our next meeting how it’s going.
Baba had time to make two gifts. One said, “I believe you should never give up on your dreams. Calm and Collected. Add more to your world” while showing images of confident woman and a happy child.
Johnny’s Peace Tile has a lot to say! Though he is blind, he told me the images he wanted and the words he wanted to offer to someone on the other side. He was quite decisive in what would represent him. My favorite collage of quotes he put together says, as advice to someone just discovering their status, “For a healthier you, it’s important to… look for someone you enjoy talking to, someone who still likes adventure.” He has the word GRACE in golden yellow on his because he feels his life is full of grace.
Others shared, “No worries. Good Counsel” “Eat good healthy food” “I Love flowers” and had pictures of gorgeous ones bursting with color. What strikes me about this is that here in the townships, you never see flowers. There are no gardens. The food they eat is full of starch and little protein and very few, if at all, vegetables. Why? This kind of food is the cheapest. Though know what they need, they do not have access to it.
One wishes she had a car so that she could go wherever she wants, all around South Africa. Cars are their access to life out of the townships. It gives them a chance to find and keep work, to see the city of Cape Town, so close and yet a world away; and to know what the world outside their township is like. There is almost non-existent public transportation so tax’s become luxuries and people stay trapped in their cycle of poverty
Look at their Gifts and be moved. What moved the participants the most was the possibility that someone would want to know what they thought and felt about anything. They wanted their gifts to be special because it mattered to the other person and it mattered to them to offer hope and proof that people can LIVE with dignity and joy with HIV. Just look at their faces!
Anasuya


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